Supporting a Loved One with OCD

It's incredibly hard to see someone you care about dealing with OCD. It doesn't matter if they're a child or an adult. They might avoid doing things they enjoy, have a hard time going to school or work, and feel constantly frustrated or stuck. While finding a therapist who specializes in treating OCD is crucial, there are other ways you can provide support.

First, learn about Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) by visiting a website like: www.iocdf.org. Understand that people with OCD find their obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviors as frustrating as we do. Many individuals I've assisted with OCD express phrases such as "I know this thought isn't true, but I can't stop thinking about it" and "I know doing x, y, or z won't truly help, but I can't stop." Recognizing that you and your loved one share a common goal of overcoming OCD can strengthen your sense of unity.

Second, learn about the importance of family involvement and accommodation in maintaining symptoms of OCD. The phrase "OCD loves company" suggests that human interaction can influence OCD symptoms. Researchers and mental health professionals have been studying this (Ex. Eli Lebowitz and the Yale Child Study Center). When your loved one is struggling, it's tempting to either demand that they stop their rituals or to change your own behavior to accommodate the rituals. However, neither approach is helpful in the long run. Instead, try validating your loved one's pain by acknowledging how difficult it is for them right now. You can also boost their confidence by expressing your belief in their strength to overcome it.

As a therapist, I've witnessed the immense strength in facing OCD on multiple fronts. If your loved one isn't ready for help yet, you can support them by learning to confront OCD in a supportive way. It's a tough but rewarding process. Reach out to a professional for guidance and set yourself and your loved one up for success.